I was revising another job description for our agency.
Crafting language, revising, rewriting, reformatting, when it hit me. This description looked utterly different and 100 times better then the first one I did when I first began writing them. I’d made mistakes, I’d scrapped older versions, I’d started over, kept the basics.
Then of course, like I always do, I related it back to relationships of which, unlike job descriptions, I have not been successful at.
However, in my many experiences I have narrowed down some key factors that I believe are necessary for success; at least for me. And it’s simple really. I’ve boiled it down to at least two items.
1.Look for butterflies.
You know, that feeling when you heart beats a thousand times a minute when you see your beloved. The kind of feeling you get when you are energized just thinking about them, and then you can’t stop thinking about them. Their beauty, their humor, that funny expression they make, the way they smell.
2. Find your own JF…Jaime Frasier. Look for someone who doesn’t leave…period.
Yep, that person that when you drive them absolutely nuts, or infuriate them with your own humanness…they don’t leave. Sure, they may want to take a belt to your backside, but they still don’t leave. They can’t, because they know…life without you in it…just is not as colorful. They further know that ever minute without you, even you being an occasional asshole, in their life is like living with a huge hole in your heart.
And this is why…
Relationships are a lot like job descriptions. They have basic elements that will always remain, but expectations and duties will change, and the more you write them the better you get.
The more you do anything in life, the better it gets. Relationship with those you love are no different. The more mistakes you make, and the more you do it, the better you get.
You see…mistakes…errors…are how you get better and how you learn. So pick a man or a woman that will be by your side when you eventually say something incredibly stupid, or totally fall flat on your face, loose your job, make a huge social faux pas. Find someone who knows you and expects you to be a raging absolute asshole…or stupidly self centered. We all are at some point. But also knows, this “jerk” within is just a cover for true self, which is good and kind and loving, and just a scared little kid.
They will find a way to communicate with you…they will find a way to make it work. If they love you, because love just is.